Definitions: Incompletes

One barrier to the experience of success, happiness, and love is the unacknowledged accumulation of life's unsatisfying conversations. In communication coaching jargon these are called incompletes.

Life's less than satisfying conversations keep generating more of the same results in similar present-day situations because there is an unacknowledged lie having to do with the first time it happened. The mind is not remembering a specific incident, a failed communication, an abusive interaction, accurately. The lie continues to have consequences.

One example might be that you shunned someone in school. Your memory of what happened might be considerably different. It's especially significant if you don't even remember doing it. In any case, it had a powerful effect. It's quite possible that the classmate has yet to recover from the experience of how you communicated with him/her. What's not so easy to see is that your unconscious abuse has had an effect on you as well, without you even being aware of it.