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January 02, 2009, 01:53:46 AM by Kerry
I use this blog to empty my mind of reoccurring thoughts, ideas, and B.S.. Whenever I think about writing a book I jot down thoughts about it here; emptying my mind usually completes it for me. --Kerry
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July 30, 2008, 02:12:10 AM by Kerry
This post presents the supposition: What if judges applied Newton’s Third Law of Motion to cases involving spousal abuse?
Newton’s Third Law of Motion: “For very action there is an equal and opposite reaction.” When particle A exerts a force on particle B, it causes particle B to simultaneously exert an equal force on A with the same magnitude. The key words here are, "simultaneously," "equal," and "magnitude." With couples, both impact each other with the exact same force at the exact same time.* Any position automatically creates an equal and opposite position. "You're stupid." "No I'm not, you're stupid." Both communications can be delivered verbally or non-verbally, or psychically, either way they have the same effect. Entanglement: When photon A, that's "spinning" clockwise, is divided and placed in separate sealed containers, the spins of the two new photons B and C is unknown—until one of them is observed. When one first observes photon B they observe its spin and discover that photon C is spinning the opposite direction of photon B. For example: If we had placed photons B and C in separate sealed containers and put one of those unopened containers on the moon and then opened it we'd know, with absolute certainty, that both are spinning in the same direction; the very observation of one caused the other to spin in the same direction. The communication between B and C is always instant no matter the distance between B and C and, it happens faster than the speed of light using no known means of transmission. The word spin does not literally mean rotation, rather it describes certain characteristics that vary. For example: A couple who both withhold significant thoughts from their parents are said to spin (integrity-wise) the same. A person who communicates honestly and spontaneously with their parents does not attract someone who deceives their parents. If they do attract a withholder they will soon find themselves withholding also. When anyone first meets another they both automatically, simultaneously-instantaneously, unconsciously try to match the other's spin (their integrity) so as to survive in that moment. For example: The vast majority are addicted to withholding one or more significant thoughts from their own parents; as such they are driven to magnetically attract a partner who operates with similar integrity; honest but not too honest. When we first meet, when we first observe each other, we both automatically communicate the way the other is communicating. I.e. If I notice that you're withholding a significant thought from your parents I will automatically non-verbally support you in doing so, because I too am equally addicted to withholding. I.e. President Trump has no choice other than to lie and deceive us; he mirrors our integrity. You, the reader, are withholding one or more significant thoughts from someone of significance, including President Trump. Presently the law does not apply to interpersonal communication. It's commonly (and incorrectly) held that words and thoughts are not physical particles (waves of energy) and therefore have no mass and therefore cannot hurt as much as the mass of a fist. The present legal system presumes that we always operate from choice and therefore have a choice to not react to abusive verbal and non-verbal communications. On the other hand, therapists know that a few choice words delivered by an unconscious parent (not in choice at the moment) have damaged many a child for life. I.e. "You stupid ass, you'll never amount to anything." If everyone consistently operated from choice we could choose to not be upset within seconds of having an upset. We all know that it's possible to use our leadership-communication skills to goad and taunt another with words, or psychically via intention, and cause them to react physically (to hit us), and that we can then bring assault charges against them for striking the first blow. With domestic abuse, only the physical hitter is referred to as the abuser—they are the one who ends up with a police record. I recall in grammar school a teacher assigned equal punishment to me and another boy who hit me. Unlike other adults she didn't waste time asking who started it. I was miffed because I honestly could not see that I intended it. Since then I've realized that she was an exception, she was clear about responsibility. We all know that not everyone applies Newton’s Law to fights. What would happen if there was a NoFaultLaw and judges would automatically (no exceptions) sentence both partners in a domestic violence incident (any time police are called) to equal amounts of communication-skills coaching? And, that the children of the fighters would be assigned to a third party until a communication-skills coach signed off attesting that both partners have acknowledged individually their addiction to abuse and blame and have demonstrated a willingness to communicate responsibly their cause of the incident. The premise behind removing a child from the influence of either parent is that both parents are impacting the child negatively, teaching him/her how to goad, argue, yell and blame—to both cause and put up with abuse, and to badmouth—by all standards a torturous (unloving) curriculum. Expectant parents are unaware that their abusive verbal and nonverbal communications (the very vibrations emanating between them) are imprinting the fetus, teaching their child to spin as they do, to be abusive. Hopefully this supposition will trigger some stimulating conversations for relationship couples. * Mediocrity as a force: If a couple begins marriage with both contributing energy-wise to the success of each other and then one reverts back to typical high school performance and starts coasting (such as a pot smoking coach potato) that partner begins to affect the other's energy; they begin to exert a drag, a force on the other, a non-verbal communication that doesn't feel good. It's abusive. If someone marries a partner who did not apply him/her self in school, someone who has never cleaned a window, or worked, even part-time, for a year or more, they are said to be committed to mediocrity. The drag, of standing still when another is trying to make things work, affects their partner's very aliveness. For example: Most citizens exert a force of mediocrity on their community's Council Members, those trying to improve things (this is referred to as covert thwarting). With aloha, Kerry Last edited 8/13/21 Hawaii Island VOG status (SO2)
July 15, 2008, 03:01:40 PM by Kerry
Here are two links that graphically depict the VOG (SO2) and it's direction.
(Both links work as of 7/28/21 — K.K.) http://satepsanone.nesdis.noaa.gov/pub/OMI/OMISO2/hawaii.html Updated daily by NOAA satelite. Hawai'i (Big Isle) Short Term SO2 Alert Index Updated hourly throughout the day. Email reply from Gilberto Vicente, NOAA - OMISO2: responding to my email reporting that the NOAA satellite had not been displaying for several days in row. Hi Kerry, The OMI is in a polar orbit, and only viewed the same place on Earth once a day, during day light time. The current image in the NOAA web site shows the last swath over Hawaii on July 9, year 08, Julian date 191 and UTC time 20:54. This actual pass over Hawaii happens a little later because this is the time of the first scan line of that swath. It is + or - 1 hour around that time because the Aura satellite (the one that houses the OMI instrument) precesses each day. Look at the different times in "current", and "previous" images. Gilberto UPDATE 3/17/09 Kerry, Please update your link to http://satepsanone.nesdis.noaa.gov/pub/OMI/OMISO2/index.html Gilberto Kerry wrote: Hi Gilbert, I assume you folks know that our NOAA satellite report has not been displaying lately, for more than a week. I use http://gp16.ssd.nesdis.noaa.gov/pub/OMI/OMISO2/hawaii.html#End daily to determine if the SO2 is going to be blowing in my direction. It's been stuck just displaying a small map with no data. I believe the problem began 3/3/09 when it kept displaying the same report for a few days in a row. With aloha, Kerry -- Gilberto A. Vicente - Ph.D. - Physical Scientist NOAA/NESDIS/OSDPD/SSD - Product Implementation Branch E/SP2, NOAA Science Center, Room 510 5200 Auth Road, Camp Springs, MD 20746, USA Phone: 301-763-8142 x 160, Fax: 301-899-9196, Gilberto.Vicente@noaa.gov Bookmark this page. Kerry PS. Post a reply here for information/advice about residential air purifiers w/HEPA and charcoal filters. Most damaging communications of the decade?
May 12, 2008, 02:26:03 AM by Kerry
Post what you believe to be the most damaging communications of the decade.
I post because I don't have a sense that many are aware of just how hurtful and provoking President Bush's labeling the Chinese as the "evil empire" and "axis of evil" is. It begs for an apology. To be sure, the invasion of Iraq was an unethical horrendously damaging communication. Likewise, few are aware of how much it irritates foreigners to read/hear, "God Bless America" as opposed to a more supportive conscious, "God Bless Everyone." What's worse is, most everyone now knows that the phrase upsets foreigners and yet a few still choose to flaunt the phrase. This is abusive. Kerry Last edited 8/7/22 Why it's unlikely I'll be President of the USA
May 07, 2008, 02:15:54 AM by Kerry
Jacques-Yves Cousteau, said, when asked what it would take to effect a transformation in the world, specifically for industries to stop polluting the planet, "Only a benevolent green dictator could effect the necessary changes." (paraphrased)
The following could be thought of as my platform for the office of President of the United States. Not to worry, as you read you'll see why it's highly unlikely that anyone would ask me.
More: Kerry Tattoos reveal unconsciousness and irresponsibility
May 06, 2008, 01:01:51 AM by Kerry
Let's see, I have enough money to spend on a tattoo or donate to a food-bank/homeless shelter, what shall I do? The answer would be easier to see if your family were struggling hand-to-mouth for survival; the question is ludicrous, it just wouldn't enter the mind to spend money on personal adornment until everyone has been fed.
It's virtually impossible for someone with a tattoo to read this post without having an upset; reading this will trigger the mind to manufacture justifications, explanations, and reasons, and a flaming make-wrong of the article's author. The reader will find him/herself automatically judging and invalidating the thoughts herein. Actions and behaviors made by a person who operates from integrity do not trigger the mind to explain itself. Truths and righteous behaviors, in service to the community and world, need no explanations or rationalizations. A tattoo wearer has no choice but to explain and rationalize his/her purchase. Some thoughts:
I'm not happy with the way this reads now but I wanted to get it out of my mind. I'll come back to rewrite it. More to follow. I'm open to suggestions. Kerry Coqui & VOG supporting the integrity of Realtors
December 20, 2006, 05:00:33 AM by Kerry
The coqui frog (a.k.a. kokee) and the recent increase in VOG supports the integrity of realtors
Back in 1973, as Director of Training for McCormick Realtors, then the largest real estate company in the islands, I made it a point to support agents in informing prospective buyers about all considerations that might cause a buyer to not buy. It's not an easy policy to support. The option between integrity and a sales can test an agent. For example:
A verbal warning doesn't recreate for the buyer the experience. The agent needs to say, Quote My understanding is that this neighborhood has coqui frogs. I don't know how loud they are here but it's possible they could cause you to have buyer's remorse once you've unpacked and are sitting on your retirement lanai. I'd like to schedule an evening visit with you to the property so that you can experience first-hand whether or not it's something you can live with. It's altogether possible for a buyer with buyer's remorse to ask for their money back because the coqui noise or the VOG was not mentioned on the DROA contract. For some the coqui and the VOG are health problems. For a sales agent to not "communicate" these conditions is unconscionable. I'm wondering just how a Realtor communicates about the VOG so the prospective buyer knows exactly what it means. Post here if you know of a real estate company that does include an evening on-site coqui experience of the property for each and every prospective buyer; they deserve to be acknowledged and supported. Could it be that the coqui and the VOG will serve to cut back development? Wouldn't that be something? Fix Up & Handy Persons -- Please Share Good & Bad!
December 15, 2006, 05:19:49 PM by Kerry
Fix Up & Handy Persons -- Please Share Good & Bad! Posted by Island Mike
Hello, Lots of things could be discussed with this forum. One I run into often is "who do you call...?" to fix that sink you can't or are afraid to mess with; add a fence; fix da hole in the wall; add an outlet; replace the garbage disposer. You get the drift. Maybe you aren't all fingers and can do your handy chorse yourself but I think a lot of us could use a lead or two to a good worker source. If we all spoke up about the good workers and also those who we might want to steer away from, wouldn't that be a valuable resource to have access to, and well suited to this tool provided here? What to say to a rude cell phone user
December 15, 2006, 05:19:19 PM by Kerry
What to say to a rude cell phone user.
Ans: 1. Say nothing. It's a setup. You're being goaded to point out their inconsiderateness so that they can vent some of their pent-up anger. It's unlikely that you have the verbal communication skills to pull off a mutually satisfying conversation with them, one that will effect a transformation. Theirs is a covert abusive communication rooted in a childhood incomplete. They are in fact addicted to abuse and need their daily fix. If they can hook you into criticizing them their reactionary upset gives them something to do other than experience the pain underneath their contempt for your serenity. Keep in mind that all cell phone users have read the articles—that others find it distracting, if not irritating, to have to listen to another's cell phone conversation. So you already know that they operate from a place of contempt and disregard for the space of others. They make this choice consciously, much like a barking dog owner does. Is there an alternative? Is there something besides trying to engage them verbally or with stink-eye, or by means of integrity-compromising (upset stuffing) silence? Yes. After reading this article you’ll now have a choice. To hand them this clipping or to reward/reinforce their abuse. Silence on your part is in fact an empowering communication. Silence unwittingly sets it up for them to do it to another. Like a driver who purposefully thwarts others in going the speed limit an inconsiderate cell phone user has yet to discover the correlation between their manners and the results they are producing in life and relationships. Unconsciously what they are looking for is someone who won't buy into their act, someone who will support them in getting to the source of their anger. What you can do is give them this clipping. It's called service. It will serve them. Here are two possibilities that could come from your service: 1) They will read this and have a visceral experience of embarrassment and uncomfortableness. The ideal response is if they don't say anything to you. They will know that their cry for help got gotten, and, at some level, they will respect the courage it took to deliver this communication—knowing that you risked their wrath. Your communication will impact them for life. 2) They will read it and it will trigger upset, or anger, or even rage. In other words, if the person is abusing others (read – needs to be caught) say in their personal relationship, they will have no choice but to react. Like a puppet, they will be driven to abuse you even more, with attitudinal posturing or stink-eye or even verbally. If you are steadfast in your commitment to service, letting them vent and walk away from you still upset, you not having said anything, they will have an experience later at home of what THEY did, rather than what you did or said. Ironically, whatever they say is what you need to hear for your growth. Ans 2. Mastery is—intending what's so to be so. That is to say, you can't create anything until you can create (intend) the now. In short, intend that they keep doing it until it doesn't bother you. It might be time to be more considerate of where you frequent and judge. When you serve you are served. Feel free to make copies of this blog. Some thoughts about breast implants
December 15, 2006, 05:18:47 PM by Kerry
Some thoughts about breast implants
Not that it would change a woman’s mind but I'd feel better if I knew that every woman considering breast implants read the following. I write because I think someone should say something, and, because I want to feel somewhat better for stating my point of view. I’m certain I speak for many men, and no doubt a considerable number of women, when I say that for many of us breast implants are a turn off. More and more I find myself repulsed by starlets who have disproportionately large breasts. The word pathetic comes to mind. CBS's Survivor is a typical example with its token silicone endowed participants. Unfortunately most of these breasts are easy to spot because they look unnaturally hard and bulging. There’s nothing soft about them. When viewing TV with someone quite often one hears them say, “They’re fake.” Or “I bet they aren’t real.” —always commented on in a put-down disparaging way. It’s understood that many women have such an operation because they believe they will feel better about themselves. Many women who have had the operation say this is so. There’s no arguing about this. I suggest that any woman contemplating spending money on implants spend an equal amount on therapy beforehand to see if they could arrive at feeling whole and complete they way they are. My sense is that the inner radiant beauty that would come from such introspection would be far more lasting and much healthier. It’s reported that one of the main reasons a woman enlarges her breasts is because she believes that men will find her more attractive; to include visions of increased job opportunities. However, many of us watching this trend can’t help but wonder what’s going on with a man who can only be caught by big breasts. What woman in her right mind would want to attract such a “Shallow Hal?” Is such a catch desirable? Might a man predisposed to unnatural fake large breasts reveal later to have been lying, both to the woman and to himself? I’m absolutely certain that many a husband married to an implant recipient cannot now tell her the truth for fear of hurting her obviously already fragile self-image. I suspect a simple, "My preference would be that they were normal" would devastate many a spouse. It hard to imagine why a single woman would purposefully disfigure her body thereby absolutely ensuring that a large percentage of the male population would never consider anything more than an arm’s length relationship with her. It’s sad because I'm sure there are many who would have found her natural size to be the preferred size. It's possible some males look at a woman with implants and suspect it reveals the need for therapy and so they unconsciously dismiss them as a mate choice. I’m equally turned off by my fellow males, the ones who purport to be turned on by fake hard imitation breasts; more so, because women feel such a need to satisfy them. Notice that I haven’t mentioned the psychological ramifications of implants? Suffice it to say, my experience has been that people who cannot be happy the way they are—are always finding something wrong. I’m also disappointed with the plastic surgeons who ask their obligatory "Are you sure you want to?" in such a way as to cause the client to say, "Oh yes." It seems as though each client needs to be asked, “Do you realize that if you opt for the size you say you want that they will look hard and fake, whereas if you go one size smaller it will be more consistent with your proportions and won’t turn off as many people?” And, most importantly, “Do you know that you are creating a barrier to the experience of communication? —that is to say, any new person you meet will be unable to be with you because a part of his/her mind will be with your fake breasts while they process internally the accompanying judgments rattling around in their mind; all this is going underneath the normal small talk.” Large breasts are a covert way to control others. Most people are automatically driven to glance at the bulging breasts during the introductory conversation rather than the woman's eyes. Few new aquantences have the integrity to truthfully verbally share their first experience and so these thoughts and experiences become withholds, incompletes, barriers to the experience of communication. Lastly, there is the issue of life's priorites. Let's see, should I spend money on fake breasts or donate the money to a local food bank. Adornments such as diamond rings, tatoos, and implants? —absolutely, once everyone is fed and sheltered. Read: "Breast obsessed boyfriend wants me to get implants."
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