Sandra, Elen, Jenny: cheating and responsibility Sandra, Elen, Jenny: cheating and responsibility
November 05, 2010, 02:32:18 PM by Kerry
Sandra, Elen, Jenny: cheating and responsibility The tabloid dramas of Sandra Bullock and Jessie James, Elen and Tiger Woods, and Jenny and Senator Mark Sanford remind us how easy it is to lapse into blame for unconscious intentions.* One thing these women have in common is that each have presented themselves un-flatteringly as, “I-didn’t-know" infidelity 'victims,' at best, unconscious cons. Yet, even in the light of many days, all willingly (some allegedly for money) supported the media in portraying their spouses as being the villains. To my knowledge none of the women have issued a correction or retraction to the effect—
It's not commonly known but few, if any, teachers nationwide have the same definition of the word responsibility—all have an understanding of what it means but few are clear; fewer still communicate responsibly.** Ask all the teachers in any school to give you the definition of the word responsibility and you’ll get as many different answers as there are teachers. Is it any wonder why parents (high school graduates) have a difficult time supporting their children in being responsible? Instead, what we see is a customer suing McDonald’s for a coffee burn, litigants suing cigarette companies for lung cancer, teachers blaming students and parents alike for poor SAT scores, and spouses blaming each other for cheating and the effects of their machinations. There is a more insidious aspect to this blaming phenomenon; it suggests a conspiracy, one so well hidden that it's rarely discussed even among the intelligentsia. It is an excellent example of a mokita—a truth everyone knows that no one talks about. Could it be that even though men spend less time with their children they (men) have the greater impact? If this were true it would mean that a father's communications are more effective and powerful than a mother's.*** This conflicts with my 44+ years of experience as a leadership-relationship communication-skills coach. What I've noticed is that everyone has the exact same amount of leadership-support skills. Some use their skills to forward and motivate, while some use their skills to thwart and take others down with them; still, others use their skills to effect and sustain mediocrity. All three skill-sets are equally powerful; all confirm Newton's Third Law of Motion— "For every action there's an equal and opposite reaction." Just as there are eloquent effective public speakers, so too are there eloquent effective pouters and thwarters—those who have mastered their non-verbal leadership communication skills such that their pouts and non-verbal communications have the exact same power as verbal eloquence. I.e. A parent who defends his/her option to hit (spank) their child will, using their leadership-communication skills, non-verbally, psychically, ensure that mental and health care professionals fail to define the definition of the word abuse. The way to tell to what end you have been using your support-skills is to look at the results those around you are producing. I.e. If your husband has turned into a couch potato who seldom does house chores without prodding or spends a lot of time on his hobby but doesn't do volunteer work for the community, then you, the wife, have trained and rewarded him. If your husband's weight is unhealthy then, no matter what you believe, that has been your intention.* With both of these examples we see that the wife's leadership-communication support-skills don't inspire one to opt for health. And, we see that the husband, using his equally powerful support-skills, is committed to thwarting his partner so as to ensure her failure and the failure of both sets of parents—to raise children with positive support-skills. The husband and wife have unconsciously conspired to support each other in hovering around in mediocrity. So we ask, if men and women are equally powerful and responsible for the communication breakdowns that lead to infidelity (and wage disparity) what then is the source of this obvious perpetual condescending inequality both at home and the workplace? Could it be that this seldom-mentioned conspiracy between men and women is an unconscious mutually agreed upon non-verbal pact? The implied agreement goes something like:
* "Unconscious intention" We are always manifesting our intentions. Often, we are unaware of an intention until we see the result we've produced using our leadership-communication skills. ** "communicate responsibly" Typically what one hears is, "Those damn legislators won't fund us." —a blaming communication, instead of, "I just don't have the leadership-communication skills to convince the public to grant our requested funds." *** To think that women are more influential ignores the effects of non-verbal and psychically delivered unconscious intentions; that is to say, both parents and both sets of grandparents, are intending all-day-long regardless of proximity. A common acknowledgment of successful people is that they were inspired by the infrequent, but impactful, interactions with a grandparent (grandparents can also unconsciously thwart the success of a grandchild). For more read: Wedding Guest Vow Sandra B sets the record straight Elen Woods acknowledges responsibility for Tiger's behavior Hillary's public acknowledgment Who gets what in a divorce The Intention Experiment Mind-expanding research/experiments having to do with intention. —by Lynne McTaggart Last edited 2/7/24[/size][/size] Write a Comment:Sorry, you must be logged in to post a comment! |
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