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Posting Instructions / How do I handle naysayers?

« Last post by Anon on February 06, 2018, 05:08:04 PM »

I am 16 and very sad. I started my own advice column at school and receive tons of letters asking for help. The reason I did it is because I plan on becoming a psychologist when I'm an adult.

Every time I mention my column or my future plans, my family and friends laugh and thinks it's funny. A friend of my mother's told me that there's no way I could know at this point in my life what profession I want.

What should I do about people who have so little faith in me? Should I listen to them or try to brush off their remarks? Please help. —SAD GIRL ON THE EASTERN SEABOARD

Posting Instructions / In Mom's eye, girl can't do anything right

« Last post by Anon on February 06, 2018, 02:37:04 PM »

I'm a 14-year old girl. My problem is my mother and the nonstop fights we've been having lately. I'm trying hard to do all the right things—keep my grades up, maintain my friendships—and maybe find nice boyfriends. Through it all, I've tried to make Mom my No. 1 priority.

My father left us, and Mom has done everything for my brother, sister and me. Even when she only had had 20 bucks in her pocket, she still kept us in our house with food on the table. What's hardest for me right now is that I can't do what other kids my age can—or go where they go—because of lack of money.

I have been reading my Bible every day and praying for my family—even for my dad. But I can't seem to make Mom happy no matter how hard I try. She yells at me every time I turn around. I need some of your best advice. You can't imagine how great it would be for me to hear something positive from Mom for a change. Thanks for listening. —TROUBLE WITH MOTHER

Posting Instructions / Teen wants friend to stop smoking pot

« Last post by Anon on February 06, 2018, 02:34:00 PM »

My best friend, "Bette," is one of the nicest, smartest teens you'll ever meet. I enjoy her company, we get along great, and we have a lot in common. She's also my role model, since I'm two years younger than she is. (I skipped a couple of grades.)

Recently Bette has been smoking weed and encouraging me to try it. I'm very against smoking. I'm afraid Bette might be doing the wrong thing. She says it's OK because she does it only a little bit.

How can I persuade her to stop? Should I even try? Will I be ruining a great friendship? —NEEDS HELP IN GEORGIA

Posting Instructions / Secret about girlfriend's incest

« Last post by Anon on February 06, 2018, 02:32:11 PM »

My friend, "Zoe," and I are both 16. We met this past year. On one of our first nights hanging out together outside of school, Zoe confessed that she had been severely sexually abused by her father from the time she was 4 until she was 13. She said she finally told her mom and it was "all worked out." I told Zoe I'd be there for her if she needed to talk. Recently, she confessed that when she said it was over, it really wasn't, but she swears it is now. Her mom isn't divorcing her dad or calling the police or anything. Furthermore, Zoe has a brother who is a few years older and leads a messed-up life. She thinks he was abused, too, but she isn't sure. Annie, I don't know what to do. Zoe made me promise not to tell anyone, but I feel my priority as a friend is to do what is best for her well-being. Unfortunately, I don't know what that is. If I tell the police, I'm not sure she will admit the abuse, in an effort to protect her father. But if I don't say anything he is likely to keep abusing her. Please help. —Concerned in California

Posting Instructions / Visit to grandparents bores teenagers

« Last post by Anon on February 06, 2018, 02:30:19 PM »

Our parents make my sister and me go with them to visit our grandparents one Saturday a month. They live two hours away. We don't like having to waste our Saturday this way. My sister and I are 15 and 16, and we're old enough to stay home alone. When we are there, all we do is sit there bored while our parents and grandparents talk.

Our grandparents show no interest in us, even though they tell our parents how much they "love" seeing us. Our parents say our grandparents are not in good health and may not be around much longer, so one Saturday a month isn't too much to ask.

The other day Mom overheard us in our room talking about how much we hate having to go over there, and she was furious. She said we were selfish and care about no one but ourselves, and she had better not hear that kind of talk again.

Please tell us what you think. —BORED TO DEATH IN SAN FRANCISCO