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Big Island Forum => Community Blog -- Click "New Topic" to post your thoughts. => Topic started by: Kerry on April 14, 2017, 07:28:02 AM
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These research topics are ideal for education and speech-communication majors.
TOPIC 1:
Premise: Withholders attract withholders.*
Overview: Both divorced partners withheld one or more significant** thoughts from their eventual marriage partner on the very first date. The thought withheld was believed to be a deal-breaker. This deceit contributed to all breakdowns in communication (http://www.comcom121.org/breakdowns.htm), negatively affecting all outcomes throughout the marriage.***
Research: Interview divorced individuals asking— "Recall something significant you withheld from your ex on your first date?" My own research has proven that all divorcees withheld something significant on their very first date.
* A withhold is any significant thought withheld from a significant person for a reason. i.e. Thoughts withheld (major/minor deceits) serve as barriers to the experience of love. A thought withheld from a loved one is abusive, it dooms them to a life with few or no moments of joy. When you bring your addiction to witholding into a new relationship you automatically, non-verbally, grant your date permission to withhold their thoughts of choice from you. A person of integrity simply doesn't attract a withholder.
** Significant: A thought is considered significant if verbalizing it would cause upset or anger. The word "verbalizing" keeps to the front of the mind that withholds are always being communicated non-verbally. The other doesn't know what's in the space only that something's missing, something's wrong; this ain't love.
*** Examples of thoughts withheld:
- You were dating another who believed they had an exclusive relationship with you.
- You withheld that you caused physical abuse in a prior relationship.
- You withheld a physical/medical condition such herpes or an addiction.
- You withheld the fact that your family is dysfunctional (that your parents are addicted to verbal/physical abuse).
- You caused cheating in another relationship. Your integrity is such that you didn't/don't inspire integrity.
- You deceived an employer on a job application form.
- While on your first date you withheld a judgement about your date trash-talking/blaming another.
- You committed a perpetration for which you have not been acknowledged (cheating, stealing, abuse, lying)
- You lied about your cause for the failure of a prior relationship; "He was ..." "She wouldn't ..."
- You non-verbally supported your date in lying—blaming their ex about a prior relationship.
- Your date was late and you didn't have them acknowledge the perpetration (the broken agreement).
- You caused your date to think less of a prior partner; you're addicted to badmouthing and blaming.
- You didn't share your thoughts about having a Fidelity Agreement (http://www.comcom121.org/phpBB/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=123) in your wedding vow.
- You consciously chose to not talk about a prenuptial agreement—for fear of . . .
- You withheld specific thoughts (expectations) about sex. (Will/won't—for reasons)
- You deceived a parent about a date.
- You conned another into deceiving both sets of parents so as to have sex.
If you are married and have one or more withholds with your partner you can restore your integrity by doing The Clearing Process (http://www.comcom121.org/clearing/). Then invite you partner to do it—after which you both can do The Clearing Process for Couples (http://www.comcom121.org/clearing/couple.htm). Keep in mind, if you are withholding a significant thought from someone, they too are withholding one from you; there are no exceptions to this phenomenon.
It's unethical to drag around a withhold in a marriage, it's abusive, it dooms your partner to a life with little or no joy (laughter possibly, joy, no.).
TOPIC 2:
Premise: Education majors require leadership training
Overview: Teachers are failing to communicate subject matter. Principals are graduating students who can't ... Over the past four decades, nationwide, more and more incoming university and college freshman require remedial comprehension and composition courses. Instead of teaching education majors to communicate subject matter, universities, to survive financially, have lowered the entrance standards.
Research: Beginning with the University of Hawaii gather statistics to show the number of incoming freshmen students that have required remedial courses, each year over the past four 40 years. Include the number of those freshman who eventually graduated.
Overview: The Speech-Communication curriculum for education majors includes classes, courses, seminars, programs, honor courses and advanced studies, however no leadership training. The most junior military personnel (privates, corporals, seamen, and airmen) have had more leadership training than most teachers. Even teachers with some leadership training non-verbally support the retention of fellow teachers whom they know to be ineffective.
Last edited 8/24/17