More About Sex:

When I was 35 I attended an est seminar named "About Sex." The person who presented the seminar, Werner Erhard, had presented several other seminars, all of which were brilliantly incredibly powerful. So thinks me, "Hey, why not? I'd like to learn a few more techniques about sex."

To appreciate this story you must know that Werner is an educator. Before meeting Werner I had never made the distinction between an educator and someone in the process of becoming an educator. It was only at age 34, after about twelve K-12 schools, and after many very good Navy and the Army schools, and after two college degrees, did I discover that I had never ever met an educator. What I discovered was that most teachers are stuck somewhere in the process of becoming an educator. So you ask, how do you know when you're in an educator's class? The answer is simple. With an educator there are no grades, it's a pass/fail system. The class is so well designed that you absolutely get (learn) what the educator wants you to learn. There are no excuses, no reasons, as to why this result does not get produced, except, if you choose to drop out. In such a learning environment if a student is not learning it's never the student's fault. It's always that the teacher is not communicating. It's easy to tell if your teacher is in the "process of becoming" an educator because one or more students are failing. Obviously an educator has mastered communication and therefore you know, with absolute certainty, he/she can see right through you. B__S___ can't survive in such a space.

So, here I am sitting in the About Sex seminar, on day-one, with about two hundred participants, and within an hour my jaw had dropped and I began to laugh to myself. The Seminar Leader had only been communicating The Purpose of The About Sex Seminar. What it was, and I'll paraphrase it is, the seminar is about transforming your ability to communicate about sex. In lay terms (pun intended), you can transform your experience of sex (read vastly improve your sex life), for you and those with whom you have sex, if you merely discover and acknowledge the barriers you have to communicating comfortably about sex. In other words: If you can't talk about, say, oral sex comfortably, all oral sex is only your understanding of it and not the experience of it. Instead of experiencing/creating sensations, you will be stuck for life, thinking thoughts while you are doing what you call sex. Worse yet, you will be stuck trying to have sex instead of having it—trying to come or make another come. You will in fact keep having the same sex over and over again. You will have no sense at all of what it is to create sensations from nothing or how to recreate another's creations. In short you will remain ignorant of intercourse.

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