Date rape--liken to a police "sting" operation.

[Kerry]

Date rape--liken to a police "sting" operation

Police nationwide conduct deceitful sting operations.¹
Date rape "victims" nationwide conduct deceitful stings on their prey.

A Police Officer's Sting Operation:

A police officer intends that a potential perpetrator commit a specific crime that would not have taken place except for the officer's intention. The perpetrator may or may not have committed the same crime with someone else.² The officer and his/her Police Chief³ justify the deceit believing that the perpetrator would have committed the crime if the police had not entrapped them. Ethical behaviors don't require justification.

Date Rape "Victim's" Sting Operation:

A date rape "victim"⁴ sets up a potential perpetrator to commit a crime that would not have taken place except through her intention. While seducing her "victim" she must communicate so as to lead him on, to get him alone. She must manipulate him into thinking that she too wants to be alone with him; she does this by acting coy, sexy, and naive, all the while knowing what he really wants. Most important, she must attract a man who will support her in deceiving both his and her parents. I.e. An honorable man would want to meet a woman's parents, he would not con a father's loving daughter into deceiving her parents.

A date raper searches for a woman who looks/acts weak, wimpy, horny, loose, unhappy, easy, or willing to be conned and relatively unconscious (unaware). He can, within a few minutes, tell if a woman is aware of her cons, if she's used to conning and to setting it up to be conned. He is skilled at reading a woman's aura, whether she communicates openly, honestly, and spontaneously, or if she is a fellow con, a deceptor unworthy of his respect. All this can be deduced within the first few minutes. He will not waste his time with a confident honest woman, one whose "no" he knows definitely means "no, a woman he senses would report him to the police."   

A female date rape "victim" often begins by consciously choosing to wear something "sexy" she bought specifically to attract a man. She spends considerable time grooming and preparing herself for a possibility--an observer would notice a difference in time spent on crotch hygiene (a work-shower vs. a night-out shower).  Then she must choose where to go to find men on the prowl, a co-conspirator. If she can't find her ideal man she lowers her standards and selects a possible victim, a potential perpetrator. Typically, she will con her mark into paying for drinks rather than insisting on paying her own way. Using her leadership-communication skills she must seduce in a way that communicates an implied "promise of performance."  She must conduct her sting operation with someone whom she knows wants sex.⁵  A date rape "victim" most always seduces a man whom she would not introduce to her parents, one whom she knows her father would not approve. Because a respectful man would not be attracted to the aura of her karma she must select someone she can con into seducing her, one she arrogantly believes she can control. Once she's gotten him alone she must have at the ready the typical disclaimer statements, "I didn't know you wanted sex." and "Please stop."

Supportive articles:

Police Commissioner's new policy - no more lying
Date rape variables
Media's reporting of inappropriate communication "victims"

¹ I'm unaware of any police department that does not conduct sting operations; coincidentally, these departments have one or more employees involved in (non-verbally supporting) infidelity--this, because a mind that consciously justifies abuse and deceit also justifies and non-verbally enables other unethical or abusive behaviors. Please reply if you know of one.

² ". . . intention." What's also true is that the officer's sting victim is, him/herself, unconsciously intending to be caught for all of life's unacknowledged perpetrations. The police and their sting participant have non-verbally agreed to operate deceitfully. I.e. "I'll do unlawful things and you can use deceit to capture me." At no time just prior to a sting arrest does an officer intend for their "target" to go straight, to have an epiphany triggered by the officer's exemplary integrity, his/her very presence.

³ A Police Chief who supports deceit creates a department and a community that perfectly mirrors his/her integrity; the integrity of an organization can be measured by the number of its spousal infidelities, all supported non-verbally. Each "good" officer knows at least one cheating officer and therefore becomes cause for the deceit via their non-verbal leadership-skills. Civilians of such a community believe that it's OK to deceive another for reasons, in part because police do it. Here in Hawaii, the majority believe that a few officers have confiscated marijuana for personal use or resale. True or not, the perception of deceit, though not as prevalent as rumored, does have a valid foundation. I.e. A friend of mine (and many others in our community) know an officer who used to be a fellow "grower" --that is to say, our police chief has yet to learn how to create a safe space for open and honest communication with his officers. The officer, who lied on his Job Application Form about drugs, is unaware that he is dragging his out-integrity, his unacknowledged deceits (perpetrations), into each and every interaction with everyone, affecting all outcomes; the out-integrity within the department, the unconsciousness, affects the chief and his results.

⁴ With date rape, as with spousal abuse, there are no "victims," only consenting cons, each running their con on the other. A spouse abuse "victim" will, after the first incident, using his/her equally powerful leadership-communication skills, set up their partner to abuse them again--instead of insisting on estrangement or therapy, they goad their partner into more abuse and then blame them.

⁵ A truthful woman will communicate upfront, "Just so you are clear, I'm not at all interested in sex or going home with you. Is that OK with you?" On the other hand, a woman who doesn't always tell the truth--one who has existing deceits and withholds between her and her family, a woman who doesn't always mean what she says, [She conned a high school date into begging for sex and had said no at first and then--after making him jump through a few more hoops, "gave in."] displays her out-integrities via her aura--she will seduce a man non-verbally and later blame him for her machinations. Cons can always detect a mark, a fellow con. A date rapist will generate (elicit) certain feedback from a woman that assures him that she intends to be conned. What he doesn't know is that she may have a different agenda; she may be addicted to blaming and revenge, she may be dragging around anger and is unconsciously intent on causing a perpetrator to be incarcerated--thereby revealing her unconscious intention.

It is never acceptable to ignore another's, "No. Please stop."

Note 1: All officers who support stings have dozens of withholds between them and their spouse; what's not commonly known is that the officer's spouse is withholding an equal (yes, equal) number of thoughts from the officer--there are no exceptions to this entanglement phenomenon. Law enforcement spouses, using their equally powerful leadership-communication skills, support the marital infidelities throughout the department, unaware of the correlation between integrity and outcomes.  I.e. The spouse of an officer either inspires her partner to communicate openly, honestly, spontaneously--zero significant withholds or, he/she non-verbally supports gossiping, blaming, and badmouthing--resulting in thwarting the officer's chief.

Note 2: Research will eventually reveal that most all date rape "victims" have one or more unacknowledged withholds (deceits, lies, perpetrations) between them and their parents; they unconsciously set up life to get caught so as to restore and maintain their integrity. Read about recidivism.

Note 3: A high school boy hunts for a girl who is not in communication with her parents. Based upon her verbal and non-verbal (or missing) communications about her parents a boy knows she can be conned into deceiving both sets of parents so as to have sex.

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