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Author Topic: Hillary's public acknowledgment  (Read 1746 times)

Kerry

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Hillary's public acknowledgment
« Reply #1 on: December 16, 2006, 12:55:04 PM »

News release I'd like to read:

Hillary's public acknowledgment

Dear Fellow Americans:

Many of you have experienced disappointment and upset with me about the drama I created in my relationship with my husband Bill. Specifically, I set it up for most everyone to think less of him, that he broke his fidelity agreement with me, and that I was the victim in our relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth. Through my machinations, my leadership-communication skills, I sabotage him and the country. At a time when we needed to have our attention on more important matters I empowered (enabled) him in lying to you and congress. The negative effect it had worldwide is immeasurable.

I know now that the responsible thing for me to have done was to insist, after the very first extramarital incident, way before his presidency, that we both immerse ourselves in counseling/therapy until I was absolutely sure that cheating was no longer a possibility. Instead I communicated verbally and nonverbally in such a way as to let Bill know that I would continually support him in his philandering, and most certainly that I would not divorce him if he cheated while in office. This was the implied agreement between us. We know this from the results I produced.

I am quite certain history records would be different had I said to Bill prior to him accepting candidacy for president, “Bill, from now on cheating is the same as requesting an immediate divorce? There will be no more second chances.” Instead, I made my own security and profession more important than the integrity of the Office of President.

I did a disservice to women everywhere by pretending to be the victim. Unbeknownst to most everyone it was my intention (albeit an unconscious one) to set it up for him to cheat so that I would look good. I could have straightened out a large part of the mess if I had simply acknowledged to the public that we had an implied agreement that I would support his philandering. The same goes for his denial that oral sex isn't sex, I could have communicated, "Bill, tomorrow you retract that insulting lie, tell them the truth, or I leave." He knew with certainty that I would put up with it.

I know it appears ludicrous to some for me to hold office as a Senator, and to be running for the Presidency given that I have been unable to demonstrate that I can inspire even my own husband to honor agreements and to be open and honest with me. Worse yet, I have conned some of you into thinking that I'm the nice one in the relationship. Never ever forget that I'm the one who did not insist on and inspire fidelity.* I'm the one who karmically required and therefore chose a partner who couldn't be trusted to honor agreements. I'm the one who chose someone to mirror my own out-integrity. I'm the one who covertly drove him into the arms of others all the while pretending that I was the poor victim undeserving of respect and loyalty.

I have committed myself to a series of counseling sessions to get to the source of, and complete, my addiction to abusing and being abused, to enabling, and to manipulating others in such a way as to cause them to look/feel bad. Upon completion I plan on sharing my findings via a live TV interview and have you be the judge as to my ability to tell the truth, to communicate responsibly, to hold public office. I will respect your wishes.

Sincerely,

H.R.C.

* See Creating a Marriage Vow that Precludes Cheating
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